Do you find yourself repeating directions over and over or giving a directive and it goes unheard? Maybe you are not truly communicating with your child because you are wired one way and they are wired another way. I believe God has wired us with certain personality traits and temperaments. There is a design in all creation and we must point our children to know their purpose and nurture that purpose. In her book, Growing Kids With Character, Hettie Brittz explains 4 personality types of children and how to help your child reach their full potential by knowing what communication style and discipline works with that temperament. When a child does not respond well to a discipline method, we as parents must be willing to adapt and adjust to what does work. We will be much happier in the long run and the child will receive and understand our love because we have taken the time to deal with them effectively, in the way that works for them.
We need to be open to God to shape our children, but to shape us as well as parents. Sometimes that means finding tools that work in productive ways for the individual needs of the child and that is different most often for every child. Give your child space to be who God created them to be.